The Bulletproof Musician

One Way Parents Can Help Their Kids Be Less Anxious

• Noa Kageyama • Episode 375

It's hard to be a parent and not worry about one's kids. Especially when it comes to public performances, competitions, or auditions, whether big or small.

But doesn't it feel like sometimes a parents' worry is contagious? Where their stress or worry rubs off on their child, and the kid starts worrying or feeling more pressure as the performance approaches too?

The answer is not to tell your students' parents to chill out and stop worrying, of course. Because that's not likely to happen no matter what you say! šŸ˜…

But the research suggests that there are better or more productive ways to worry. So if a parent is going to worry, they might as well worry the right way.

Wait...what? There are better and worse ways to worry?

Get all the nerdy details in today's episode. References available here:

One Way Parents Can Help Their Kids Be Less Anxious

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